Over time I'm becoming more and more sure that guys want, or maybe need, a girl to shoot them down, no gentle let-downs, no easy outs. They seem to want to be slapped in the face with a NO or they think that persistence is going to wear down your barriers. It won't.
If a girl's interested she'll show it from the beginning. She'll laugh at your jokes, be interested in what you do, and jump at the opportunity to hang out with you. It is very rare that you'll be able to weasel your way around her disinterest.
A prime example of the oblivious-to-the-obvious gentleman is the following exchange which came after I turned down this guy's offer of a date. He's nice enough, but I'm just not interested.
Him: Do you ever like to meet up after a while of talking it up?Me: I have met people, but it's rare.Him: Oh man. That's a bummer. You might miss a good guy like this. ;)Me: It's a risk I have to take.Him: Man something about u brings risk taker n all... Something has me hooked and I don't know what it is lolSubtlety doesn't work. Apparently what I should have said was: "Not meeting you is a risk I have to take" or even just "I'm sorry but I'm not interested in meeting you." I feel badly because I'm usually very direct and I guess what I'm learning is I should do this in online dating as well.
So boys, the next time a girl is mean to you when turning you down, try to remember that there were probably a hundred boys who came before you, couldn't take a hint and have now screwed it up for you. I'm sorry, but that's just the way it is. Either get better at taking a hint, or be prepared for our wrath.